2024 Week 28: Wedding & Birthday

An overdue update for week of 8-14 July.

MON: Sick after coming back from Penang. Lazy but not restful day. Ate badly, didn't exercise, online shopped a lot, etc. 

TUE: Cycled to yoga class (immense relief for aching joints after a week+ of no exercise and cold aircon). Changed bedsheets, deep cleaned and reorganised my room. Dinner at Green Dot.

WED: First day of statement month, so bought a bunch of things online e.g. groceries and pet stuff. Ate more rubbish. Wrote above blog post. Walked to Bishan Park and back. Chilled with Jon then went to his parents' place for dinner/

THU: Groomed Hana, then dad came by. We went for lunch and durians then collected and installed Haybeon. Lay in bed with bad period cramps. Did more yoga and ate KFC (so good) and Swensen's sundae for dinner.

FRI: Don't remember, probably just bled 'n' read all day. Went to queer women's movie outing to Longlegs.

SAT: Joel's wedding and afterparty!! (See below)

SUN: Hangover. Then dinner and Decathlon with my family.

During my recent counselling session I realised that domestic love (home/relationships) is now the foundation of my life, the thing I choose to attend to the most. I think that's 100% Joel's influence. While he is as full of pseudo-intellectual systemic analysis bullshit as I am, there is one huge way he differs and that's his capacity for love, patience and kindness. As I see it, he sets the gold standard for conduct in relationships.

So, one of the highlights of my year is watching Joel and Marjie get married. It wasn't so much a one-off event as the celebration of their relationship. I don't think I was the only person who wasn't sure it would work out. She was so young (didn't she want to sow her wild oats?? I thought) and yet they're still going strong after 7 years and so many challenges both within and without. All I want for Joel is the domestic bliss he's obviously meant for. And I couldn't be happier that Marjie is his keeper.

I wanna go off on a tangent on Kitty and Levin from Anna Karenina: 

Both Kitty and Levin grow during their relationship, very often, subtly, influencing or triggering the growth in one another, both have to patiently, without judgement wait for the other, accompanied by a deep faith of the other in their hearts. Kitty and Levin's relationship is not perfect, but in every trouble that came their way, their love and bond was more important to both of them than the expectations they had of each other, than the manic need to consume the other. Kitty and Levin, then, become dedicated not only to each other, but to that love which they share, promising, never to allow it to break.

We made good use of the $stupid expensive floral arch:

On Sunday I went to PS Cafe with my parents and brother to celebrate my birthday. It was one of the nicest family hangouts we've had in a long time. Actually we waited 45 minutes for the food to arrive and were a bit peeved. After checking with the staff, we learnt that the order was missed due to a technical error, and they gave us free truffle fries and a dessert!! So we were really happy and maybe kinda high on the double chocolate blackout cake by the end.

I feel loved.